I met a friend last week for coffee and thanked her for inviting me, as I told her there is a weird phenomenon that comes with moving.
It’s like this…we say we are moving, we know God is leading us to do so, we don’t know when, but feel like it is this summer. And it sort of leaves people at a loss.
They ask questions. Are you moving, yet? Has your house sold? Do you have a job there? When do you think you’ll be moving?
And we are totally at a loss to answer any of those questions. So it is awkward.
But here is what I told my friend….I feel like we are in a boat, facing in the direction of College Station. The water is still. The boat is not moving. And we have been here FOR DAYS ON END. We cannot go back to shore. We cannot move forward. We are still and waiting. It is all in God’s hands.
So if someone wants to come and “meet” with us, they have to row out to where we are. And that is what is happening now and again. But on most days, it can be a lonely place. It is just hard for people to understand and to walk very long in this uncertain place–a place of waiting. Not many like to wait alongside….but for those who do and who are, I am ever so grateful.
One thing I did not tell my friend at coffee is something Chris remarked about this past weekend. This environment has served to bring our family closer together. It just has. And it is a good thing! We will reap rewards, because of it!
I think the potential problem in relationships with friends is this: we like to build together. And to do that it takes time and effort. But when you find out a friend is moving away, you tend to step back and watch, rather than jump into the story. So a distance can happen. And building stops. (For the record, the same thing can happen in leaving a church, which we have also experienced over the past year. My advice is this: WE ARE ALL ON THE SAME TEAM! Don’t let the change of a church affect a good friendship! It doesn’t have to be that way.)
Some do not understand why we are moving. And the fact is….we have been here before ( a few times actually). We have experienced this before. Some relationships were distanced for a time and then grew closer again. Some were completely lost to our sorrow and regret. And some maintained the course and are growing stronger with the years. It is a part of life.
God is so faithful to bring those far off friends across our path again. It is His way of weaving. He ties it all in and uses every interaction we have for good…whether now good or later good.
But the most important factor is this: we are (as best as we know how) listening to and following God’s leading. When He says go, we go. And in coming here to Colorado, we can all list thousands of reasons we were blessed and grew in following the LORD. In going there to College Station, we know that we will experience the same kinds of things–all of us. For both decisions, we are not picking a location based on our own preferences. Though we have LOVED living here in Colorado and would love to do so much longer! We also know that we will love being nearer to Chris’ family and that we will love being back at Texas A&M area and our old church for as long as God wants us there.
I share all this in case some of you are in this place or headed this way. It is hard to be in the place of in-between. I want to encourage you to press further into Jesus during these times. For even on the hardest of days, He is closer than your breath. He, too, has experienced the same feelings. Press into reading your Bible–read it aloud even. Listen to music that stirs your soul. And pour out your heart in those places. Not an ounce of it is wasted. It all matters…and is meaningful–especially in the still times of waiting.
God bless you all!