So it’s been eight months since I left social media. How’s it going? Do you miss everyone? Will you come back?
Yes, of course!
It’s been so freeing to just be…not think, “Wow. I should take a picture and post this on Facebook.” Or “Ha ha! How funny. How can I tell this in less words on Twitter?”
The age we live in is training us to spout out every little thing that happens. And truly? We are building a lot of sand castles.
For when life happens…and it does.
And when life happens hard…and it will.
People we connect with in social media care on various levels. As much as they care (or don’t) it is never enough to cover our cavernous hurts, needs and pains. They just can’t.
When real life happens, who will be there for us, AND be enough for us to really help, but God alone?
He is the only One who understands the depths and can fully go there with us. Be there FOR us.
And news, even juicy bits of news, cannot satisfy.
Pictures do not tell the whole story.
Articles do not often give the complete picture, but are created to spin us into a tizzy sometimes.
We care more about someone’s plight–a person we don’t know at all–than we do about the need next door.
We like to care from afar. For if we come too close to the need, even walk with someone through it, we may not come out smelling as sweet as we’d like. We might even incur judgment from others for even caring for them in a way that gets our hands dirty, too.
We are missing the point sometimes. Missing out on truly helping and loving others.
And sometimes we are using social media to create a fictitious world that doesn’t even exist or reflect the truth at all. Reality television is not where we want to do life. The pavement outside our doorstep is!
I challenge you to give up social media for a month or more and see for yourselves…test it and see. Who follows you beyond the screen and actually wants to walk alongside you in your dailyness?
Those are the ones who are worth building with…those are the ones who help carry your heavy burdens to God. And they love you enough to be a friend in real life and get their hands dirty even.
I’ll be honest with you– eight months later, less than 5% of the friends I had on Facebook and not even 2% of Twitter have continued with me. I say that to give you a reality check.
These platforms are not reflective of real life friendships. They are business cards mostly. Places for one liners…for marketing… for so many things. But they are not places where true friendship can grow I believe.
So I’ve decided to never go back. This is no longer a sabbatical, but a leaving. It has given me freedom to build again. And I’m loving the life I am living with the friends God has given.
For the record, many of the friendships I have built through blogging and commenting (since 2006) are still some of my closest and dearest friends. So blogging? Yes! It’s the kind of yes that also brings a huge smile to my face…for I am thinking of you friends and family, who are reading this right now.
Oh and God gave me the most awesome pictures the other day…the Thunderbirds flew over our house and there was the sun high up above me with a RAINBOW circling round it. Have you ever seen such a sight?